all the kinsmen and kinswomen

Be in a deplorable plight and powerless

rat-eyed and buck-headed(contemptibly ugly)

all the neighbouring households(the whole neighbourhood)

send matchmakers in style to make somebody a principal wife(proofs necessary in marriages)

as the seasons change(Cold and heat alternate.)

pick the best from a vast quantity

make captious comments

Understanding

reach the same goal by different ways

What has been cannot be withdrawn

Helplessly

be literate

be born before one's times(live in the wrong age)

be on one's bones

slip through somebody's fingers

have somebody's life and property at one's disposal

All in two directions

be unparallelled both in beauty and art

give up one's own views and follow others(yield one's wishes to those of another)