a wish to have one's children married of(the marriages of one's sons and daughters)

be shrewd at gnat and muddled at the key issue

share joys and hardships/sorrows with

put/set the cart before the horse

the vestiges of past events

the happy reunion of friends chatting together late into the night

Bind the bell to cancel the bell

help each other when both in humble circumstances

Hang on to the throne

congratulate each other on the prospect of getting good appointments

be beautiful in appearance and clever in mind

go against nature

be clever and understanding when young

lie like a trooper

reserve the honoured post for

frighten oneself without reason

A boisterous guest usurps the place of the host.

Velvet paws hide sharp claws.

serious hidden danger

no sooner obtained than lost again